9 laws of happy relationships

A happy relationship is not magic or an accident. It is the result of the efforts of two people who recognize each other’s value and are ready to build harmony together.

I. The law of attraction

We always attract into our lives exactly the kind of person we are. If you are not satisfied with your environment, look into your soul. If you believe that you are lucky with people, it is only because you are good people yourself. Therefore, if you want to attract a decent person into your life, become such a person.

II. The law of cause and effect

What we give is what we get. Treat your partner the way you would like to be treated.

III. The law of love

We all need love very much. Love means acceptance, sincerity, tenderness, care, willingness to give and take responsibility, reliability, selflessness, and generosity. And the more we show these qualities, the more we get in return. Such manifestations as fear, jealousy, dependence, manipulation, control, claims, reproaches, destroy relationships and have nothing to do with love.

IV. The law of the power of words

All words have power. Words can heal, they can also kill. Watch what you say. Labels, insults, reproaches create wounds in the soul that are difficult to heal. They have an irreversible effect. Because in the soul of every person there is a child who feels the fear of being rejected. Be afraid of underestimating your ability to hurt it. Use the power of words only for warm words, compliments, approval, and support.

V. The law of trust

Trust is a vital element. Without it, a person becomes suspicious, anxious, and full of fears, and the other feels trapped emotionally, as if they are not allowed to breathe freely. Jealousy is a fear of loneliness, low self-esteem, and self-dislike. Trust is an essential element of true love.

VI. The law of sincerity

Be sincere. Love is never stationary; it is like a plant that either grows and blooms or withers and dies. It all depends on what we do with it. Sincere communication is like water, a plant cannot survive without it. Tell each other about your desires, your attitude and feelings. Let your partner know that you love and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say “I love you”. Don’t be afraid to praise your partner. Sincere praise, like the sun for a plant, will breathe new life into your relationship.

VII. The law of giving

To love means to give a part of yourself. If you want to receive love, you only need to give it. And the more you give, the more you receive. Love is like a boomerang that always comes back. Maybe not always from the person to whom you gave it, but love will still come back to you. And it will return a hundredfold. It is important to remember that we have an unlimited supply of love. We do not lose it when we give it. And the only way to lose the love inside us is not to give it to others. One of the reasons why people rarely experience love is that they wait for someone else to love them first. But it’s like a musician who says: “I will play music only when people start dancing.” Or expecting a fire to be warm without putting wood on it. True love is unconditional, it asks for nothing in return. The secret formula for a happy relationship for life is to always pay attention not to what you can take, but to what you can give.

VIII. The law of touch

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love that strengthens relationships. To touch a person means to touch their soul. Maybe that’s why, when we are offended by someone, we say: “Don’t touch me!”. Hug your loved one more often for no reason, hold hands. Researchers conducted an experiment in a London clinic. The chief surgeon usually visited each of his patients the evening before surgery to answer questions and explain the general nature of the operation. And during the experiment, the surgeon held each patient’s hand for the few minutes he talked to them. These patients recovered 3 times faster than others. When we touch someone with care, both our and their physiology changes: the level of stress hormones decreases, the nervous system relaxes, the immune system improves, and the emotional state improves.

IX. The law of freedom

If we love someone, we need to give our partner the freedom to make their own decisions, to live the way they want, not the way we want. Each of us needs personal space. People need to be free in relationships because otherwise they feel trapped. If you really love someone, you need to respect their wants and needs. It is not always easy to let go of someone you love, but there is no other way. Worldly wisdom says: “The more freedom we give someone else, the closer they are to us.”