“How do you communicate to maintain relationships?” A modern parable that makes you think

The teacher began his lesson by asking the students a question:

– Why do you think people raise their voices when they quarrel?

– Probably because they are angry and can’t control their emotions, – the students answered.

– But why do they shout at each other when they are right next to each other? Wouldn’t the words be heard in a calm and quiet voice?

The students thought for a moment, and then the answers poured in:

– They will be heard…

– Indeed, why shout?

– You can talk quietly nearby…

The teacher waited until the noise of the class died down and then spoke:

– When people quarrel with each other, they move away from each other in heart and soul. And the stronger their resentment, the louder they shout and the further they move away. But how do people communicate who are not driven by anger but by love? They speak to each other so gently and quietly that they almost whisper. Their hearts and souls are so close that any distance disappears. Sometimes they can talk even without words, because eyes can say everything. So we shouldn’t forget that quarrels only make us further apart. A raised tone of voice and offensive words increase this distance many times over. It’s important to watch what we say and how we say it. Otherwise, the day may come when the distance between once close people increases so much that it will be difficult to find a way back.